What Is Femininity?

This is definitely a loaded question. We have a lot of voices in our world speaking on this topic. It’s not that any of the ideas out there are wrong I just think we are over complicating it. How many times have you felt conflicted by being too feminine? Or what about being not feminine enough? That’s the reality we are facing with our gender. There are so many people telling us what we should be. We live in a male dominated world which means there’s just a lot of misunderstanding of who we really are….

Which is NOT like THEM.

That’s it! We are not like men. We have different strengths and weaknesses. The gender issues are not about who is better or stronger or who’s in control. It’s simply that we do not honor each other’s differences. That is all. I think the division in our world on this topic goes deep. But the basics imply that we just don’t seek to understand the other. God made us equally. Man is not above women, and woman is not above man. We just have different designs.

It’s not that a woman can’t do what a man can and a man can’t do what a woman can. It’s that our bodies, and the gifts and anointing of our hearts will help us unfold and ultimately turn certain things we touch into gold. Let’s break it down:

A man can make a wonderful single father. He will rise up to the occasion and he will bless the children he looks after. He will provide for them and teach them lessons. He will strengthen their identities and help them overcome massive obstacles in life. But there is one thing that is going to take a long time to develop…. instant nurture. There are absolutely men out there who are just SO nurturing. I would just like to comment on the wiring of the brain chemistry here. Most men are going to have to learn over time and through practice how to nurture the emotions of that child. Whereas most women are going to have a strong connection to emotional nurture a lot faster than that man.

Design.

A woman can be a total badass as soldier in the Army. She has so much inner strength that some of her peers might lack. She can hold that weapon and strategize for her platoon and bring those young people together to fight the good fight. But look at her body. Her physical strength is going to be a bit less compared to her wide shouldered counter part. She can do every single push-up a man can do but she will have a bit more fatigue afterwards. Her systems will take a bit longer to process because of her hormone balances and what they need to flow. Plus the absolute lack of surging testosterone! lol. She will do wonderful as a commander and a comrade. She will bring her troops home and bring balance to her bunkhouse. But her system will be a little bit more depleted and might need extra accommodations or she may suffer with long term health issues.

Design.

So I guess my question has shifted…

What is masculinity? And what is femininity?

To F L O U R I S H.

There is nothing each gender cannot do that the other gender does (minus biology things, bear a child etc.) But there is a rhythm to each load. A dance and a melody to be sung from each. It is cadence that is smooth. A rose that is blooming before her Lover. It is harmony and peace to our systems and work flow that is sustainable. It is the sunrise and the sunset that is constant and uninterrupted.

That’s how all of this feels when we are doing what we were designed to do. And that is for each of us to figure out.

Where am I flourishing. Little resistance. Abundance.

For some it may be out on the streets patrolling the neighborhood as an officer, or an art teacher with a class full of special needs students. Both, and all acceptable for either gender. This is just the question for you and Jesus alone.

Where am I flourishing?

You are loved.